The arrival of a second child upends the family dynamic, including for the older child, who must also find their place. A few simple guidelines can help ease this transition.
Before the birth: involve them without pressure
Explaining to the older child, in simple words suited to their age, what is going to change helps limit surprises. Involving them in certain preparations, such as choosing an item for the future baby, can strengthen their sense of belonging.
Avoiding major changes at the same time
It is preferable to avoid combining the baby's arrival with other major changes, such as moving to another room or giving up the pacifier, so as not to multiply the adjustments they have to make all at once.
After the birth: making time for the older child
Setting aside moments, even brief ones, one-on-one with the older child helps maintain their sense of emotional security. This time can take the form of a shared game, including on a play mat shared by both children.
Regression, a common reaction
It is not uncommon for an older child to display regressive behaviors, such as asking to use the potty or have a bottle again, in the weeks following the birth. This reaction is generally temporary and requires no particular intervention beyond patience and attentiveness.
To learn more
To support each child's development at their own pace, read our article on infant cognitive development or our article on comfort objects and transitional objects. If you have any questions, contact our team.
