The arrival of a second child disrupts the family balance, including for the older child, who also needs to find their place. A few simple guidelines can help make this transition smoother.
Before birth: involve without forcing
Explaining to the older child, in simple words adapted to their age, what will change helps to limit surprises. Involving them in certain preparations, such as choosing an item for the future baby, can reinforce their sense of belonging.
Avoid major simultaneous changes
It is preferable to avoid combining the baby's arrival with other significant changes, such as moving rooms or stopping the pacifier, so as not to multiply the new landmarks to integrate at the same time.
After birth: preserve time for the older child
Setting aside moments, even short ones, one-on-one with the older child helps maintain their sense of emotional security. This time can take the form of a shared game, including on a playmat common to both children.
Regressions, a frequent reaction
It is not uncommon for an older child to exhibit regressive behaviors, such as asking for the potty or bottle again, in the weeks following birth. This reaction is generally temporary and does not require any particular intervention beyond patience and listening.
To go further
To support the development of each child at their own pace, consult our article on cognitive development in babies or our article on the comforter and transitional object. For any questions, contact our team.
